The very word love evokes very strong emotions in humans. Love encompasses a far range of positive and very powerful emotional and physical states, from anesthetized bliss, the highest personal intimacy, to the easiest form of physical pleasure. The connoted pleasures of love however are based on the idea of love as an end result, not a starting point or goal.
Love is not merely a state of mind. Love is a quality and not a state of being. To put it differently, love is not merely a feeling inside your heart; rather love is a feeling that originates from your relationship with another person and transcends all possible feelings and thoughts that you may have regarding that person. In essence, love is a state of being that can only be reached through your interaction with another person. Therefore, it is very important to make love your ultimate goal and passion.
The very first step that you must take when you set out on the journey to make love is to identify and understand what love is. Many people confuse love and lust. However, they are 2 different states of being. While lust is a mental condition that can be overcome with careful control, love is a natural daily beast.
When we seek love, we are seeking to gain pleasure from being loved and nothing more. In other words, we are seeking something which cannot be gained from material things alone, for if we were to give in to our carnal desires, then love would be a thing which was bestowed upon us without any need for reciprocation. As humans, it is not in our best interest to seek love and spend all of our time and energy building it up within ourselves. Instead, we should work towards putting love into a place where it can grow, thrive, and become an ever-greater expression of our innermost selves. True love will not be built up or consumed based on how it makes us feel inside; true love is not built up by building up in a place of fear and insecurity.
Once you have come to terms with the fact that love does not equal to lust, then you need to determine what type of love you want from another person. Are you looking for emotional love? If so, then you should look for someone who has exactly the kind of emotions that you are feeling. If you are looking for physical love, then you should seek out someone who has the body that will match your emotions.
It is also very important that you learn to put yourself out there so that you can find someone whom you are attracted to physically. This may mean going out on dates or even just meeting someone at a coffee shop. You never know, you might find someone so interesting that you end up falling in love with them before you even have dated them. Just remember, love happens in the hearts of people, not in a bank account. Learn to put yourself out there so that you will be guaranteed of finding the right love. You just need to remember that all of our relationships start off as friendships.